At this point in my 62 years, I understand that life has been formed by a series of mostly unconscious choices limited by my circumstances, influences, and overall environment.
One of those ah-ha moments came to me a few years ago... “had I only known then what I know now.” This special moment reinforced my belief that greater knowledge is power. Greater knowledge to me means a combination of science, quantum physics, neuroscience and spontaneous healing.
I observed a pattern of choices I had made throughout my life based upon "same old circumstances, influences and environment." These choices initially started out as simple thoughts but soon became choices, attitudes, habits, beliefs and behaviors. More significantly, they ended up shaping my personality, as well as state of being.
In addition, I noticed a developed insight for understanding how much I evolveded through those circumstances, influences and environment. There was self-love, compassion and kindness to offer my self. There was no regret.
Choice: the act of picking or deciding between two or more possibilities: the opportunity or power to make a decision: a range of things that can be chosen
The mind can trick us into making choices based upon repetitive thoughts that started years ago and are stored as a memory. I am referring what becomes our negative "self-talk". Examples include: “I am not good enough. I do not deserve this. I am afraid. This cannot happen to me. “ Again, remember circumstances, influences and environment.
Our lives are shaped by the choices we make.
Where does the “opportunity or power to make a decision” lie?
I say it lies with self. It is our responsibility to take charge of our lives. Unfortunately, our conscious mind gets in the way at times. To get a better understanding of the complexities of making better choices, we need to look at the inner working of the mind.
Conscious Mind is Over Rated
We work with only 5% of our mind, our conscious mind. Its characteristics are: logic, reasoning, and creativity. These traits give rise to what is understood to be “free will”
the power of acting without the constraint of necessity or fate; the ability to act at one's own discretion.
Free Will Only Goes So Far
Using free will does not consistently make the change we may be looking for.
“I consciously decided to leave him/her. I tried to tell him/her enough is enough but just could not make myself leave. “
Analytical Mind Gets Us Stuck
The analytical mind is a separate part of the conscious mind that divides it from the subconscious mind. It serves as our filter to keep us protected and safe. It tries to make all the necessary decisions in life for us, but how could that be possible when you are only using 5% of the brain?
How often do you see people (yourself included) who are so analytical they either agonize over, second-guess, or cannot go further than a continuous analytical loop of possible choices? This becomes exhausting for the mind and body.
Silence the Analytical Mind
Hypnotists and other changemakers, say that true change occurs when the analytical mind is silenced so that your awareness can instead interact with the subconscious mind.
This silencing occurs with the support of the parasympathetic branch of the autonomic nervous system. The autonomic nervous system is responsible for the involuntary and reflexive functions of the body. This system is made-up of two branches. The first is the sympathetic: “fight or flight” response, prepares our body for action and the parasympathetic: “rest and digest” response, helps produce a state of equilibrium in the body.
Again, our goal is to be in the parasympathetic mode. Only then can you go beyond your self, move beyond your conscious mind to the subconscious mind. As a hypnotist, I would also add focused attention and sugggestability as two other skills needed to bypass the analytical area.
Subconscious Mind – Operating System
The subconscious (or unconscious mind as some refer to it) is the other 95% part of the brain. This is the operating system where all of the automatic skills, habits, emotional reactions, hardwired behaviors, conditioned response, associative memories, and routine thoughts and feelings create our attitudes, beliefs, and perceptions. This is a simplistic explanation of the most powerful and under-utilized part of the brain but gives you an understanding of its importance and value when making choices that lead to true changes.
As I began to gain greater knowledge and understand how the mind works I started having more thoughts, beliefs, and feelings that were congruent to creating a happier, calmer and healthier state of being.
Use this blog as a launching pad or a continuation for exploring this kind of material. Becoming more self-awareness of one's thoughts and actions are a good first step to take. This will help propel actions leading towards self-responsible, making better choices and ultimately create a deeper connection to self-compassion, kindness and love.
Reference: Joe Dispenza, You are the Placebo, 2015